Bigger goals, Do what you love

     Most women’s goals are to lose weight. We constantly are on diets, looking to eat better, and constantly fall off any chance someone wants to go out for drinks or go out to eat. But our goals shouldn’t just be to be thinner, But to have actual life goals. What about a goal to make more money, what about a goal to go back to school, what about a goal to leave the job that pays you just enough to get by. We limit ourselves so much to what we can do because the people we are surrounded by are so content with their under $20 an hour when rents for a one bedroom runs for at least $1500 a month in a decent area. Our mindset stays idle.....The phrases “I have to go to work“ “I can’t wait until Friday “or “it’s Monday“ bother me so much because although I am not where I want to be I know where I want to be and I am willing to put in the work that I need to do to get where I want to go. Find where you want to be and say things like “I am headed to work”, when you “have” to be somewhere, it comes off as a demand. Even if that means making less than $20 an hour for the next few years. What people fail to realize is that you can start off with a company who does yearly raises, let’s say $.50 every year and they start you out at 18/hr. In two years of hard work, attitudes, stress, whatever it is that you complain about you will only be making $19. Now most of us limit ourselves because we have help, some women have spouses, some women live with a family member, at the end of the day if you are not taking advantage of the discounted rents that you are paying for rent living with family or friends to get where you need to go to become successful at what you want to do then you are wasting your time. When people say that you need to surround yourself with like-minded people, it literally means to be around people who are willing to elevate their life daily. People who are motivated and go-getters. People who want more out of life than a husband and kids and a Monday through Friday job they complain about. There is a whole different type of mindset that you have to have to do whatever it takes, to plan out every step you are willing to take in your life, your Monday through Friday, Your weekends, all of those days that you were sitting at home on your phone looking at everybody else’s life and I’m not saying wishing your life was like theirs, But if you find yourself for one second wishing you had that car, or you had that house, or you had that pool, or you had that vacation, all of that should be motivation. Don’t for one second tell me that you look at all this stuff and if it was handed to you or you knew you could do it you would pass it up. Because I guarantee you if you were able to have that car,  have that house, take your kids on that vacation you would do it. So why waste your life, your time, and your energy, on doing something you’re not 100% happy about doing. Stop dreaming, stop wishing, and take the first step to whatever it is that you should to do, what to do, or need to do to get what you want to do.